When we’re comfortable with someone or with a group, we say we ‘resonate’ with them. The people with whom we surround ourselves tend to vibrate at the same frequency that we do, and vice versa.

This resonance means that we behave in ways that resonate with the ways our friends behave. It also explains why it’s so hard to join a group of people who don’t resonate on our frequencies. We just never quite seem to fit in, no matter how nice the people in the new group seem to be.

Yet to a point, we can choose what kind of vibrations we incorporate. That choice is made largely by the kinds of ideas that we consume.

If we fill our minds with angry thoughts – anger at prejudice against a minority group, for example – we give off the vibrations of anger. Others who are also angry will gravitate toward us, and we will be attracted by images and ideas that resonate with the vibration of anger we have adopted. In addition, we may infuse that vibration with self-justification, self-righteousness, fear, helplessness, or resentment.

Notice that the idea is strongly linked to a powerful emotion: in the example above, it is the idea of social injustice combined with anger.

Combining powerful images and ideas with even more emotion strengthens our vibration and begins to influence our self-identity and to change our perception of the world around us: when we have a hammer, all the world is a nail.

We need to be aware of the ideas and the emotions we consume, because if we don’t, they will ultimately decide for us who we are, who our friends are, and the kinds of actions we take and decisions we make. We can be aware of injustice, for example, and even work to mitigate it, without immersing ourselves in the vibrations of outrage, divisiveness, and hate.

Immersing ourselves in love and acceptance allows us to act without harm to ourselves or others while still rejecting injustice. The frequencies of love empower us to make positive changes and to be positive people, to resonate with those who make the world a better place.