By: Adele Geiger, Resiliency Coach
There’s a quote that I’ve seen a lot lately. “Sometimes the fear won’t go away, so you’ll have to do it afraid.”
It’s kind of like sometimes we don’t have the voice outside of ourselves, but we find it often in the most critical circumstances of our lives. We become warriors without even realizing it.
I was sitting in a closet covered with clothes, so I wouldn’t be found. Shaking, crying and alone, until my best friend would answer the phone and she would be my saving grace. The person that would listen to how afraid that I was. The only one who knew how bad with all certainty that it had become.
I finally got brave enough to change the locks and put heavy furniture up against every door. Then I went to see my doctor and she did the routine things. After that, she looked at me and said, “You have the saddest eyes I have ever seen. Do you want to tell me why?” I did. It came pouring out of somewhere that I didn’t even know existed.
I’m trying to reclaim my life by taking my power back and understanding that although I did not cause the adversity, it was, and is still, my responsibility to repair what has been broken. And…I was unmercifully broken.
Find your voice and establish boundaries, or abusive people will keep hurting you. Find the help you need. Share your story, because it’s so healing to do that, and you are helping others in the same kinds of situations you have been in.
I did it afraid. There was no other way to do it. You can’t continue to justify the scars that you have suffered just because you love the person holding the knife.